How Many Hats Do You Wear?

The life of a person that wears many hats can begin to get
interesting at times.  Everyone wears more than one hat.  Some of us struggle to find balance between the many things we are involved in or are responsible for.  This is not an easy task.  Some individuals can’t function if they don’t have a busy life that they are used to. 

If things slow down some feel they are not doing enough.  When we get accustomed to this routine it
becomes a part of our lives.  My mom tells me sometimes I’m doing too much.  I love being a mother, I love being a part of my community, I love new adventures, I love setting goals and reaching them.  My life is busy but I love it.  I would not have it any other way.  You have to know how and when to prioritize as well as stay organized. 

In some instances when we get off schedule just a little bit, things fall apart.  There should always be room for “YOU TIME” and relaxation. If you are not at your best then it reflects in your life rather
business wise or personal.  We have to enjoy life while at the same time take care of ourselves.  Some of us can’t wait till the time come when we can relax more and as we say GRIND LESS. When we are set out to accomplish things our work ethic kicks into high gear.  This is not a bad thing as I tell my mom when she makes that statement.  I would rather be doing too much than not enough.  I also keep in mind not to overextend myself in any area so that it will not take away from my time with my children.

I am a Mother, sister, aunt, etc. and I wear many hats.  What about you?

C.

 
 
 
 









 
 
 
 

Keep them folk out of your business!!

My mama used to always say, keep folk out of your business. Well as a grown woman I now know the importance of this statement. I think it is important to have maybe one or two individuals that you can trust with certain information and who you can talk to about anything. Someone who is the not to judge but to offer real advice with not regards to hurting your feelings. Sometimes we need to hear the truth and those so called friends that will lie to you are not your friends. You know the ones that will let you leave the house in a certain outfit knowing you shouldn’t have that on. (EXACTLY).


We sometimes act on impulse and don’t think things through before we talk with others. This can cause things to be said that shouldn’t be as well as actions to be done without thought. It is a difference when people have to wonder about your business than those who know your business.

It is so much more peaceful when you keep folk out your business as much as possible. Some thrive off the gossip. We need to learn to think more before we act and speak which, is a hard thing providing that our emotions get the best of us at times.

They wonder why some couples when they have marriage counseling one of the biggest things they talk about is “keeping family out of your business” They are not exempt because sometimes your dream killers are right under your nose.

Be careful who you share ideas and goals with. Everyone is not there to support you and will not be happy of your success. They will only try and tear you down the best way they can.

Focus on building yourself where you want and need to be. Keep your circle small and get rid of all dead leaves. You will find out who is there with you and for you. Your business is your business PERIOD!

Why Must We Handicap Our Men?

You know it is just funny how we get so comfortable in
certain situations.   In 2010 is it the
“IN” thing to take care of your man and he has to do nothing?  At what point do you say that enough is enough “get your ass up and find a JOB”. We all get in situations where we are so in love that we do whatever
needs to be done when it comes to our relationships.  There is nothing wrong with assisting and
coming TOGETHER as one.  But I find it
really mind boggling when you have a man and he is physically able to provide
and still does not.   If we go wayyyyy
back the man is supposed to support the woman. Am I correct?

I guess I am asking questions because I see so much of this
these days.  Just because we want love we
settle.  Hell No, do your part as a woman
and let you MAN do his.  In these situations
the women make the money and the men take care of the house.  These men have been called “house bitches”.  Go figure

Now we are seeing women making more money than the man.  This is a totally different situation.  My concern is when the men are physically
able to work and contribute and don’t.    If you are totally taking care of him and
everything else why do they have to work? I mean let’s be honest would you
rather make the bread and come home to home cooked meals and pampering?  What if you come home to his ass on the sofa,
the same place you left him that morning?  (PROBLEM).

I am simply saying set the standard and stop handicapping
these men.  Make sure they are taking
care of you to a certain extent.  You
never know when you will not be able to work and if you have a lazy nigga on
your side.  You are screwed.

Love don’t pay the bills.

C.

A Family's Love

Tomorrow marks the 1 year anniversary of my cousin K.C.’s death. We enjoy our loved ones when they are here and even if we do not speak with them daily, losing them is detrimental. I received a card on yesterday in the mail from 309 Antique Car Lane, God’s Town, Heaven 19145. Inside the envelope was a card (from him). I say it was from him because as I was reading it I can hear his voice speaking to me. The card simply stated what he wanted to let us (family) know that he arrived ok. He wanted to say that even though it hurts that he is not here in flesh he is watching over us.

This card was sent by my aunt (his mom). I thought that it was a very good thing to do in remembrance of him. So this act of love is what inspired my blog posting for today. We were only a year apart and I enjoyed being around him. This past year has been hard, but I feel better today that I know he is in a better place. We can’t hold on to everyone we love dearly for we are only here for as long as God needs us to be.

Keltron Charles Singleton you are greatly missed and loved dearly STILL.


Forever in my heart

C.

Its just those little things that count!!!

Sitting home on this beautiful Sunday reflecting back on yesterday.  October 16, 2010 I turned 31 years of age.  I feel no different but and glad that God allowed me to see another year.  As I get older when celebrating my birthday I want to start doing things I haven't before.  In 2009  I had a birthday party but this year just decided to keep it simple and take a trip to just enjoy me.  Well with other things going on that I did not want to miss out on I decided to push the trip back.  Not cancel just push back.  I must say that all the birthday wishes and small tokens of love, stole my heart the most.  We sometimes don't realize how something so small can have a major impact on someone.  Well I can definetly say that this is exactly what happend to me.  Sometimes getting big, expensive gifts that sometimes have no meaning gets old.

This year I received things that meant more to me than any big gift.  Something so small to have such an impact that made my heart heavy is something very powerful.  I will never forget my birthday this year. I am still full with emotion. I spent time with those I love and welcomed a simple Happy Birthday wish from those who care. Here's to another year.

I am going to continue to Live as though I have nothing to hide, nothing to fear, and nothing to lose. 

Sidenote: (Thank you friend for making my heart smile)

Smooches C.

Statistics!!!

Listening to this jam this morning. If only we take heed to the game of this era. For some our past realationships have taught us what to look for. Some of those realtionships make us cautious and different people. This sometimes causes us to be unfair to new people that come in our life. We are scorned. We treat new mates as if they have done something wrong. All because of what the last person did. Is this fair? Everyone should have their own fair chance right. (Easier said than done)

We learn not to let people treat us how we have been treated before. It makes it hard for the next!!! The game is real. Please recognize it. Don't be treated like dirt by anyone. Pay attention to detail. At the same time be open and allow new people in your life to treat you like you deserve to be treated. In this era, finding a mate that is even close to what you want is slim. (my opinion). And last but not least. In any situation (know your role).

Don't settle for less....

A Parent's Love

Those of us that have children can relate when I say that a parent's love is a great love.  I never experienced such a feeling until the birth of my two boys.  When you have little ones that depend on you 100% your life changes.  We look back at our upbrining and decide how we want to raise our children. We want them to experience more than we have and to overall be in better positions than we were.

When they hurt we want to take the pain away.  We would waste no time trading places with them in a heartbeat.  Our children mean more to us than anything else.  There are times when some of us wonder if we can be doing more and we question our parenthood.  Great parenting comes in many different ways.  As parents we ask ourselves, Can we ever do enough?  We never stop being Mothers and Fathers, NEVER.  We won't always make them happy and they won't always understand our positions. This post is simply just to encourage parents to continue doing what you feel is right for your children.  They are the next generation.  I motivate, encourage and pray for my boys everyday.  I want their lives to be as peaceful as I can make it.  What I can't physically change or make better God will handle the rest.

Smooches
C.