How Many Hats Do You Wear?

The life of a person that wears many hats can begin to get
interesting at times.  Everyone wears more than one hat.  Some of us struggle to find balance between the many things we are involved in or are responsible for.  This is not an easy task.  Some individuals can’t function if they don’t have a busy life that they are used to. 

If things slow down some feel they are not doing enough.  When we get accustomed to this routine it
becomes a part of our lives.  My mom tells me sometimes I’m doing too much.  I love being a mother, I love being a part of my community, I love new adventures, I love setting goals and reaching them.  My life is busy but I love it.  I would not have it any other way.  You have to know how and when to prioritize as well as stay organized. 

In some instances when we get off schedule just a little bit, things fall apart.  There should always be room for “YOU TIME” and relaxation. If you are not at your best then it reflects in your life rather
business wise or personal.  We have to enjoy life while at the same time take care of ourselves.  Some of us can’t wait till the time come when we can relax more and as we say GRIND LESS. When we are set out to accomplish things our work ethic kicks into high gear.  This is not a bad thing as I tell my mom when she makes that statement.  I would rather be doing too much than not enough.  I also keep in mind not to overextend myself in any area so that it will not take away from my time with my children.

I am a Mother, sister, aunt, etc. and I wear many hats.  What about you?

C.

 
 
 
 









 
 
 
 

Keep them folk out of your business!!

My mama used to always say, keep folk out of your business. Well as a grown woman I now know the importance of this statement. I think it is important to have maybe one or two individuals that you can trust with certain information and who you can talk to about anything. Someone who is the not to judge but to offer real advice with not regards to hurting your feelings. Sometimes we need to hear the truth and those so called friends that will lie to you are not your friends. You know the ones that will let you leave the house in a certain outfit knowing you shouldn’t have that on. (EXACTLY).


We sometimes act on impulse and don’t think things through before we talk with others. This can cause things to be said that shouldn’t be as well as actions to be done without thought. It is a difference when people have to wonder about your business than those who know your business.

It is so much more peaceful when you keep folk out your business as much as possible. Some thrive off the gossip. We need to learn to think more before we act and speak which, is a hard thing providing that our emotions get the best of us at times.

They wonder why some couples when they have marriage counseling one of the biggest things they talk about is “keeping family out of your business” They are not exempt because sometimes your dream killers are right under your nose.

Be careful who you share ideas and goals with. Everyone is not there to support you and will not be happy of your success. They will only try and tear you down the best way they can.

Focus on building yourself where you want and need to be. Keep your circle small and get rid of all dead leaves. You will find out who is there with you and for you. Your business is your business PERIOD!

Why Must We Handicap Our Men?

You know it is just funny how we get so comfortable in
certain situations.   In 2010 is it the
“IN” thing to take care of your man and he has to do nothing?  At what point do you say that enough is enough “get your ass up and find a JOB”. We all get in situations where we are so in love that we do whatever
needs to be done when it comes to our relationships.  There is nothing wrong with assisting and
coming TOGETHER as one.  But I find it
really mind boggling when you have a man and he is physically able to provide
and still does not.   If we go wayyyyy
back the man is supposed to support the woman. Am I correct?

I guess I am asking questions because I see so much of this
these days.  Just because we want love we
settle.  Hell No, do your part as a woman
and let you MAN do his.  In these situations
the women make the money and the men take care of the house.  These men have been called “house bitches”.  Go figure

Now we are seeing women making more money than the man.  This is a totally different situation.  My concern is when the men are physically
able to work and contribute and don’t.    If you are totally taking care of him and
everything else why do they have to work? I mean let’s be honest would you
rather make the bread and come home to home cooked meals and pampering?  What if you come home to his ass on the sofa,
the same place you left him that morning?  (PROBLEM).

I am simply saying set the standard and stop handicapping
these men.  Make sure they are taking
care of you to a certain extent.  You
never know when you will not be able to work and if you have a lazy nigga on
your side.  You are screwed.

Love don’t pay the bills.

C.